HOW TO ESTABLISH GOOD RELATIONS AMONG FAMILY MEMBERS

Sree Rama and Lakshman -verses- Vali and Sugreeva = symbol of brothers= one is for love and another is for hate. The entire Ramayana stands for the ideal of brotherly hood but the Vali and Sugreeva hate-redness shows the other side face of the coin. This is the correct juncture to judge oneself what is right and what is wrong . When problems come in ones life and when one fell into dilemma to do what. By comparing situations one can come to a right judgement. Rama and his brothers stood for scarifies and for love and there is no room for suspicion , hat-redness, jealousy and greediness. Where as among the Vali and Sugreeva , all the negative aspects were prevailed and every thing was covered by hat-redness. Like wise in the modern days also among the brothers , there is a room for negative aspects as there is no room for them to share their feelings due to busy life and insecurity of lives.Under these circumstances without widening the gap , both sides has to make up the things with good thoughts and sharing of ideas.Then they will create a good and healthy relationships . Hence read Ramayana and realize yourself. BY MARRIAGE, ONE BECOME SELF CENTERED AS HIS WIFE OCCUPIES HIS PANCHA-PRANAS =1. PARENTS,2.BROTHERS, 3.SISTERS, 4.FRIENDS AND 5.HIMSELF. HE AND HIS FAMILY GRADUALLY BECOMES FIRST AND OTHER THINGS HAVE BECOME NEXT. THIS IS A NATURAL PHENOMENA AND NOBODY IS EXCEPTIONAL TO IT- INCLUDING OUR PARENTS IN THEIR YOUNG AGE. WHERE AS THIS KIND OF CHANGES NOT AROSE AMONG THE RAMA AND HIS BROTHERS AFTER THEIR RESPECTIVE MARRIAGES.BUT IN THE FAMILIES OF VALI, SUGREEVA AND RAVANA ,VIBHISHANA, THIS NATURAL PHENOMENA AROSE. ALL THE FAMILIES OF HUMAN-BEINGS ARE THAT OF VALI AND SUGREEVA AS SAID BY DARWIN AS WE ARE ALL FROM APES. NOW THE TIME HAS COME TO CHANGE OURSELVES AS RAMA FROM THE STAGE OF APES.THEN ONLY WE CAN CREATE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS IN OUR FAMILIES. vis verse to the wife.The wife PANCHA PRANAS are occupied by her husband and as such she depends totally on him and she will loose her independent thought of living and always lives in the thoughts of her husband and to gain control over him is the only ultimate goal to her and becomes very narrow in her thoughts and deeds as a part of natural psychology and natural tendencies.THIS IS A JUNCTURE TO KNOW WHAT IS GRUHASTA-ASHRAM DHARMA WHICH DEVIATES THE DEGREE OF LOVE AND DUTY TO BE RENDERED TO THE EACH MEMBER OF THE FAMILY BY EACH MEMBER OF THE FAMILY LIVING UNDER THE SAME ROOF. establishing harmony among the family members is a crucial one .SO READ RAMAYANA AND REALIZE YOURSELF.